I know I have been really bad for not posting on this site for a really time. But that is about to change. Things have been rather challenging over this year. There many been things that have been playing on mind and have kept inside for far too long. I remember the time when I was going through therapy… and its something that I always tell my friends, and thats is to never keep things inside. Venting out your thoughts is a rather helpful thing to do, so here I go.
If there is one to be certain of, it’s never be surprised by what questions your students can throw at you.
I made this mistake today during a class with second year high school students. I had already pre-warned them that asking such questions such as “Do you have a boyfriend?”, “Do you have children?”, “Are you married?” is off-limits. Two girls were very cunning with your question they managed to write in 3 minutes…..
“How many times have you declared love?”
The curve ball hit well and truly hard. Digging up past, painful memories, to which I had forgotten… well which I had thought I had forgotten.
First things first, before coming to Japan, I was in a long-term relationship. The man I was with we perfect for me. I had never felt so happy. Except he lived in America and I liked the UK. You can bash all long distance relationships as much as you want, but if you say I wasn’t in love, then who the hell are you are to tell me such a thing. It did cost a lot to travel to the states to see him whenever I could. But it did take its toll on my when he kept insisting that I move to the states to live with him, but I never felt comfortable in NY. Well I felt I was shying away from things. The only thing that got me through staying there was him. He such a great support but I felt I could never live there.
Now you know the main back story, here is what some may not know. We were as it happened, Engaged. There was no ring or a big fancy proposal, it simple and natural. We never really told many people only our close friends. Even my parents don’t know about it. But we weren’t trying to hide it. We were still trying figure out the next step. This is the only time I have ever felt so happy, I had planned a wedding, which was a first for me because I never thought I would get married. I always thought I would be alone, happy but alone. So it was a big thing for me.
Anyway, returning to the question..
“How many times have you declared love?”
There has only been one time where I have declared love. One time I felt he was the one I could spend the rest of my life with. One time I felt someone had fully accepted me for who I am and not trying to change me. One time I miss and regret giving up. I should have just tried to talk it out so we could have come to an agreement. But I was childish, no excuses.
I know I should be happy that I made the choice and I am dealing it with it a little badly recent and its been playing on my mind a lot. There are so many ifs and buts that it’s a whirlpool inside my mind. But there is no going back. He has his own family, he is with someone, who in my opinion is just using him, but who am I to say anything.
When I was asked the question, everything came flooding back and I told the students about how I was engaged before I came to Japan, and that it didn’t work out. It just reminded me of how much I have changed. This all happened maybe 6 years ago. I came to Japan 5 years ago. Here I am. Wondering if I will ever find someone again, someone who I well and truly loved as much, if not more, than how much I loved him.
Feelings – Oh how I hate you!!!!
It has been a while since I wrote a review, I know I have a list of drafts that I have yet to finish.
The Bride of the Water God, loosely base of the manhwa of the same name. I remember reading there will be a live action of this manhwa I have so ever admired due to the amazing artwork, but I have been distracted and thus forgot about it.
As you may know, I love watch Live actions of manga’s or manhwa’s I have read to compare the two. Although, this time it might be a bit of a challenge, because I have yet to finish reading the manhwa and it was a long time I go that I read it. Yet I still had high expectations because it is suched a loved Manhwa…
When the narcissistic water god Ha-baek (Nam Joo-hyuk) visits earth in order to find a stone powerful enough to help him claim his throne, he seeks out the help of his servant and destined bride, psychiatrist So-ah (Shin Se-kyung), whose family is fated to serve the water god for generations. The problem is that she has no belief in the gods and initially mistakes him for suffering from delusions. Things get even stranger when the wind god Bi-ryeom (Gong Myung), the water goddess Mu-ra (Krystal), and the semi-god Hu-ye (Lim Ju-hwan) show up to complicate things.
-The Bride of Habaek, wiki
With this version I was intrigued to see how they would set it in modern Korea… For the drama, the setting worked out well, even the outfits that Habaek wore suited him well (well he is a God, he would look amazing in anything… including shirtless, which happens a lot in this drama). Putting the fan service aside, I felt the main actor was chosen well in my opinion. Although, I loved the God side more than the Human side. The clothes and hairstyles look sooooo sexy!
I remember in the manhwa that it was set more in the Realm of the Gods, but in the drama, its the opposite, this was a little disappointing. I would have loved to have seen many different costumes, but I guess they were on a budget and would not have been able to afford it all Internally cries. It would have been nice to see more of an artistic style of clothing that fashionable. But that is my own personal opinion, especially as a huge fan of the original art work.
Through the drama, there was moments where I felt things really worked and things didn’t. The romance between Sooya and Habaek… I am torn between it working and not working. I understand that Habaek is still plagued by his past love Nakbin, I felt that Habaek needed to show more conflicting emotions about what he should do but Habaek and Sooya’s really, really, intense kiss (probably the longest kissing scene I have seen in Kdrama) was what I was waiting for, yet, was it really needed to be that long? was that all there would be?
I loved the drama and there was so much to follow, but maybe it was a little too hectic at times. They did introduce the other characters well, and although, it might have been only a slight touch of their stories and connection, it felt like it worked. Any more and it would have been confusing for those watching or it would have been longer than only 16 episodes, which I would not have minded.
This is probably one of the first drama’s where I didn’t hate the supporting cast, they were really well chosen, I am not just saying that I am an f(x) fan, but Krystal played Mu-ra really well. I am sure she loved wearing all the dresses too. Also Gong Myung played his character really and also added to the fan service moments in many episodes. It was definitely a great cast.
Overall, if you bare in mind, that live action dramas mostly don’t stick to the manhwa/manga’s, then its still great to watch. I really enjoyed watching it but now I want to re-read the manhwa to remind myself of why the love story between a God and Human interested me so much at first. Maybe its because its a fairy-tale, one that will never exist in real life, but the fleeting dream is one that I can still admire as only a dream. Well we want to escape from reality at some point in time, why not image a totally attractive God will sweep you off your feet?!
Recently, I have been spending a lot of late nights (when I am trying to get to sleep esepcially) reflecting back on my life… so be prepared for a lot negative and some positive thoughts!
I have been busy recently with work and then I found that playing games has taken over my free time LOL.
Recently, for my HS classes, I getting my 1st grade students to write about who they want to say “Thank you” to. As I am a nice teacher, I always give them an example to follow and it totally got me thinking – I really do need to say a massive thank you to one person in particular.
So here it goes~
Now I am sorry for not even bothering to post anything in a very long time (Waaaay too long). But I have been super distracted with gaming. Oh, yes people! GAMING!!
Last year I bought a PS4 and I was really enjoying playing Overwatch, Diablo III, Doom and then Final Fantasy 15. Yet, as from January, I started playing an MMO Final Fantasy 14 because there was a 14 day trial and I’ve been playing it ever since. Its been a great way for me to practice Japanese… but it gets super addictive too easily and I would hate to see how many hours I have spent playing it already >.<
(It is set to private, but you will have to prove I know you before I let you view my account!)
But its really fun to play and there are lots of things to do. For example, there are many different classes for you to try and level up. My main class is a Black Mage (Well I am a goth… gotta do the Gothic things hahaha). Although I started the game as a White Mage (Healer). I switched to a black mage and I love it. I have many other classes but these two are the higher levels.
I do recommend people come and play! And if we are on the same server, add me as a friend!
Otherwise, I promise I will up-date this site soon as Summer vacation is looming around the corner and I want to watch more dramas to take a break from gaming rofl.
I know this is a strange reason to suddenly post something. But this year has be fun yet only recently has some challenges came to light.
The first challenge appeared shortly after failing the N4 test. To some it may not seem like a big thing to others. But as someone who worked hard and tried to study as much as I could. It was a blow. Ok, I know I shouldn’t have thought that I would actually pass the damn thing. But still. Now in my life, this is the fourth test I have actually failed.
The first time I was told my graded ballet exam, after my dance teacher ended the call, I burst into tears. This was ballet, which I had always been the one of the top students in my class. It literally broke me heart. However, I then went on to be my dance teachers first student to pass grade 8 RAD ballet. The second exam I failed was Social studies in Sixth form. But that was shit and I hated it. The third was failing N5. It was my first time taking the JLPT. But still, it made me feel worthless and a waste of money.
Now failing might not seen like such a big thing. But I take many things to heart and it chips away at me inside. N4 might seem like its ok to fail the first time, but I was doing well for the practice tests. So why did I fail the actually exam?????
Anyway, recently, I have started to play an online game in Japanese, to help me study. But once someone starts to talk to me in English, I slide into English mode. But then someone made me feel so small because I was having trouble and they said to stop playing in a server and change to another one.
I suffer from anxiety, so this made me worry even more. Thinking if my Japanese is even good enough? What if I am wasting peoples time trying to learn this language? What am I actually doing here? Will my boyfriend even stay with me if my Japanese is so bad???? Even now typing this has started to make me cry because I feel so hurt and out of place. Yet the reason for leaving the UK, was for feeling out of place and an outcast. That’s not the only reason of course.
I am trying but its never enough!!
This leads to my current problem, I can be socially awkward. I can only really get along with certain people and others can target me easily because I will do what they say under some degree of pressure. The last time I was pressured so much, I literally buckled. As in I had therapy. I was diagnosed with anxiety and mild depression. Never in my life have I been told that I am useless, until I was in my last job in the UK. I kid you not. My manager told me I was useless and that my pay rise was a mistake. It hit me so hard, that suicide was an option. I was doing my best. Trying to help other sections and my own. Running around and doing too many things at once. The best thing for me was to reach out for help. So I went to my doctor. Who just told me I was an easy target and too soft. Of course. I didn’t tell my parents because my mother was preoccupied looking after my Nan at the time and Dad had work. So I asked for an appointment to see the doctor.
Only after all of that, I got a job to work in Japan. I am so glad I came and I love my job. But anxiety is always difficult to deal with. I wonder if I am really doing a good job. If my students actually understand my English instructions and if the teacher understands what I am trying to do. Its just recently hit me all like a tone of bricks. Even thought my new company bosses has said everyone has done a great job and they have no complaints this year, I still wonder if its just in general and they hiding something.
Now, I wouldn’t say I am overly socially awkward, its just I have problems with dealing with some situations and it doesn’t help when I live out of the city centre and people think its easy for me to go to places quickly. I don’t like short notice. I don’t like intruding on people. Above all, I don’t like places where I don’t know many people and my paranoia creeps in. I know I should be setting an example to students and for my company. But there are times where its difficult.
Socialising with schools this year has been difficult. As I feel I don’t know many other staff members because I am in the English teachers staff room. Compared to last year where I knew many members of staff as everyone was together. I just guess insecure worry that my Japanese isn’t sufficient enough to handle conversations.
But the point of this post was to let of some steam. I just wish things were little easier but I guess I should try harder.
Silenced AKA The Crucible
This movie I saw was listed on Netflix and I noticed Gong Yoo was in it. So I decided to read the summery
Amid a multitude of cover-ups, a caring teacher attempts to publicly expose faculty members who are molesting some hearing-impaired students.
I have seen a Japanese movie about disabilities in Japan “Josee, the Tiger and the Fish”, I don’t if that movie was based on a true story but Silenced is based on a novel and a true story. Not that that was what only drew to watch this movie. But I am currently working as a teacher in Japan so I can understand what its like to want to help your students if they seem distant.
I do have to admit, some of the dialogue was lost on me as Japan Netflix only had Japanese subs to the Korean Audio. So I was probably only able to understand 50% (I do know some Korean too, which helps). But I still wanted to watch.
I’ve got to say that I loved the acting and how the actors worked well together. When it comes to not fully understanding the language, the action of emotions plays a huge role. And so with that, I was able to understand the scenes and what they were about.
I would really love to watch this movie again, with English subtitles next time, just to be able to fully understand what was actually being said. But I found this movie so moving. I tried to learn sign language back when I was a Junior/Middle school student for a year. I loved learning a new way to communicate, however practising was difficult. So I gave up after a year although I never lost interest.
Now, I don’t want to go into the story, because I feel like what I might say will spoil it. I will say this shows how some countries still abuse those who are impaired in some aspect. As well as possibly portraying those who are willing to help cover up their actions with whatever means they can. I honestly cannot tell you if this is still in Korea today, because I’ve never stayed in this country long enough, let alone in the smaller cities or towns.
Overall, I would recommend you watch this movie. Although, be warned, its not for the faint hearted. This is a R+18 movie as some scenes are a little graphic due to the content of the movies story. But please don’t be put off. If you do decide to watch it, please feel free to comment below.
Introducing Numb Artist!!
I have finally decided that with this part of my website, I want to talk about my travels and explorations of the world. I want to use this as a kind of scrapbook to document where I go and what to do.
I might even through in a few useful times on living in this country or any useful findings that might be handy to know.
This part of the website will be updated as much as I can. I hope to even spice things up a little.
However, please bare with me while I find a suitable style to help make the navigation of this part of the website more accessible.
Please leave a comment about you want me to talk about or just words of encouragement.
I can’t believe my last post was all the way back in January!!
There is so much to talk about:
- Moved to Hiroshima
- In a new relationship
- Working at HS and 6 ES
- Amazing friends
- Moved to Hiroshima
After living in Iwate for 3 years, the big move finally came! Although it was no way in hell a smooth ride! I was panicking because I had waaaay too much stuff to move and not enough time to pack it all up. But then the person who came to check was late by two hours! Then the car broke down near Sendai, so we had to travel the rest of the way to Hiroshima on the Shinkansen. Which was all ok, but it was all on my 30th Birthday.. yaaay -___-
But after a week of training in Okayama, I finally moved into my new apartment. It’s great, about the same size as my previous apartment. The only downside is that I am now without a car! I got rid of it because it would be too expensive to repair. However, My Father and I had to travel all the way back to Sendai, pay to get remove my additional paid parts and then travel all the way back with two suitcases of whatever we could pack from a tightly packed car T__T
It was a good thing that if didn’t take long with my parents help to unpack everything and settle it. It was also lucky that my friend had a washing machine and fridge freezer going spare, so I took it off her hands.
- New Relationship
Well, I won’t go into detail with this because we like our privacy. But I met someone and we have now been dating for over 3 months now (almost 100 days!). It is still strange to be in a relationship and be in Japan. But I am happy and that is what matters.
- Working in HS and ES
One thing about the move is that my role here is very different to before. I teach at one HS (High School) three days a week. My workload has drastically changed. Instead of having the teachers telling me what lessons I should be teaching each week. The roles are reversed. I tell the teachers what lesson I will be teaching. I was very nervous at first with all the weight on my shoulders. But I have settled into it and I love it. I don’t have to deal with grammar translation but instead focus more on the communicative activities for my lessons.
In addition, I now teach at 6 ES (Elementary Schools). All the schools are in a weekly rotation so it’s a nice change to end the week. I was nervous about the new challenge, but now I really enjoy it. Of course I get a little nervous teaching infront a whole room of students after only being told what the JTE (Japanese Teacher of English) wants me to do 30 minutes before the lesson. But the students are so energetic and open to learning English, it’s a nice change LOL!
- Amazing friends
Now this is the real reason for posting. I would be so lost if it wasn’t for my amazing friends Nathalie, Kelly, Hoiming and Lu! These 5 amazing women have been so supportive over the past 6 months and I do miss their company with crazy nights out and chats! Thank Gawd we have LINE (a messaging app that is popular in Japan)!!!! Just having friends to talk to every day is perfect! I know that recently I don’t get to go out much. Even more so as I recently bought a PS4 and signed up for Netflix. Plus, I spend my weekends with my boyfriend.
Its just great to have friends who understand me and we get along so well! Plus we even have amazing conversations. And this is the reason for the up-date. Just to prove how amazing well we get along!!
Me: I glad we all still talk. I would totally be totally lost.
N: Me too… Seriously you ladies are one of the best things that have happened to me EVER. Heart
Me: Yup yup
N: I feel bad because I post often but I’m not kidding when I say it helps to talk with you lovely ladies.
H: Sent a sticker
Me: Dont feel bad. I feel bad for not posting much.
H: Imagine that as group hug
N: I think we would huddle together like that too. lol
H: and that’s the beauty of LINE – we catch up at our convenience
Me: Thats true
N: Very true.
N: So nice.
Me: And leave lots of messages for Peter and Noodles to read
N: I’m pretty sure this is like a woman’s talk show and we give insight into the female mind.
Me: Or a free novel to read with multiple characters
Me: Minus a few dragons, witches, ghosts, etc
N: Wait, EXs are kind of like ghosts
N: And problems are kind of like Dragons
N: And bitches be witches
Me: Bitches be zombies
N: Shotgun targets
Me: They die but still come back uglier than before
N: Yes yes
N: Sent a sticker
Me: Exs be vampires.. they suck the life out of you
N: But vampires can be cool…
N: How about poltergeists?
Me: Or a shapeshifter
N: Using their knowledge to get to you… And having ugly skin shedding abilities.
N: Yup sounds about right
Me: And easily change to a different person
N: “I’ve changed now! I’m a new man!” (=___=;;;)
N: That works
Me: Totally works
Me: Old best friends are like witches… once they gain power or what they want, they leave you or use you.
N: Oh. MY. GAWD. It’s too perfect!
N: Sent a sticker
N: That’s EXACTLY how I would describe it!!!
Me: A poltergeist is more like that stalker/groupie. Looking for your attention. To be noticed.
N: Creepers be creeping
N: We seriously need to write some of the stuff we come up with down. Lol
Me: Or achive the chat lol. Send it to an email address and save the copy lol
One of the best conversations to have. Even if it was influenced by Supernatural ROFL. It still totally works, right?!?!